HOW TO CHOOSE A LAWYER FOR YOUR FAMILY LAW MATTER

If you identify that you need a lawyer, then the next question is which one do you choose? This can be daunting, because it is likely that you have not been in this position before and it is foreign to be in a position where you need to retain a lawyer. You are also now having to make important decisions on your own and this may have been the first time in a long time that this has been the case.

It is natural to have concerns around which lawyer to retain, what the fees will likely be and if they will give you the best advice possible.   Here are my tips on how you should choose the right family lawyer for you:

Specialist Family Lawyer

There are many lawyers around but they don’t all practice family law. It is commonly assumed that if you are a lawyer, that you can advise in all areas of the law, but this is not the case. I recommend looking for a lawyer who specialises in the practice of family law. There are many lawyers there known as ‘general practitioners’: these guys practise all sorts of different areas of law. They might do a bit of property law, a bit of estate work and a bit of family law. Because they don’t practise family law, day in and day out, they are likely to have not had the experience of family lawyer whom exclusively practices in this area. You will pay the same or similar rate to a general practitioner as you would a family lawyer, therefore I would recommend that you look to engage a lawyer who solely practices family law. It is my view from experience, that your money will be better spent. Family law is a huge area of law that is ever evolving; it takes an expert to support you properly on your family law journey. If you are in a regional area and there are no family lawyers in your area, then you can easily retain any chosen family lawyer in Australia. The law is the same throughout and most of what a lawyer will do for you will be on the phone and email.

Google or a Referral

To find your family lawyer you can start where everyone starts —with Google, there are many family law firms with websites where you can get a feel for them and what they offer before you phone their office.  If you have had a referral from family and friends that’s even better. Some family lawyers offer free initial appointments. This gives you the opportunity to seek advice and to meet with the lawyer to see if you feel comfortable to work with them.

Interview Your Lawyer

There is nothing wrong with interviewing a few family lawyers by attending initial appointments with a few before you retain one. You are going to be relying on this professional to take care of your legal interests. For most cases, there is time to meet with more than one lawyer before you choose the right one for you.

Align Your Values

Different lawyers have different styles. Some family lawyer’s are all about putting the gloves on and getting in the Court room. Other lawyers take a more collaborative approach, where they try really hard to resolve the matter for you outside of Court. Have a think about your values and discern whether a potential lawyer’s values are the same as yours. You could ask some simple questions: what’s important to you in resolving family law matters? What drives your engagement with family law? Does your practice have a code of ethics or official values underpinning its work?

Go With Your Gut Instinct

No matter how many years of experience they have, no matter what awards and plaques are displayed on the walls of their office, if you are not comfortable with the lawyer, that is not the lawyer for you. You may have to work with your lawyer for many months or even years, so it is important you have confidence in the lawyer you retain. You should also like the person that you are going to be working with.

Ensure You Feel Valued And Listened To

Your lawyer is there for you and you deserve to be valued and understood in the process. It is really important that your lawyer listens to you and allows you time to process the advice they give you. Avoid lawyers who are more interested in telling you how successful and amazing they are rather than in listening to what you need from them. When you are speaking with your lawyer you should not feel judged or talked down to, you are their client and deserve respect. Choose someone who you feel is able to listen to you, value you and respect you as their client.

Be Okay With A Lawyer That Is Straight Up

It is also really important to understand that the advice you receive about your matter might not be what you want to hear. Sometimes you may feel that the advice is not favourable to you, but you are better off knowing the truth about how the law applies to your circumstances or how the Court may view your case. If your lawyer is doing a great job for you, they will not be afraid to tell you the truth about where you legally stand. Sometimes this is uncomfortable, however remember you are paying for legal advice and not something that is sugar coated.

Avoid Lawyer’s That Promise You Outcomes

Lawyers do not come equipped with crystal balls to tell you the future of what outcome you will receive or what a Judge might order in your matter. They can however tell you what the law says about your circumstances and what pathways there are for you to reach a range of outcomes. So be aware of any lawyers who make you large promises.

Ask About Fee’s

Different law practices have different ways of billing. Some offer fixed fee services, traditional billing per the hour or some also offer deferred payment arrangements. This is very helpful, if you have property to sell and all your funds are tied up in the property, making it impossible for you to afford legal fees as you go. Find a lawyer that has flexible solutions that will fit your needs.

The Most Expensive Lawyer, Doesn’t Mean The Best Lawyer

Some people feel that if they retain the most expensive lawyer that they will get a better result. Or they can feel disempowered by the other side retaining a top tier law firm, while they can not afford that. This approach can cost a lot of money unnecessarily. Your particular facts of law cannot be changed, you and your lawyer can only deal with what you have before you. Having a practical, clever and passionate family lawyer is worth their weight in gold.

Independent Legal Advice

 You should choose your representation independent of your ex-partner. It is not up to your ex-partner to guide you to a preferred lawyer; nor is it up to them tell you that you do not need one. This is a very common theme and if this is happening to you, this is disempowering and it is a form of control, which is a form of domestic violence.

Be Empowered with Clarity

 Because the family law process is often unfamiliar and can be intimidating, a lawyer that will put you at ease by helping you understand what to expect. Just because your lawyer has been through a process hundreds of times, he or she shouldn’t take it for granted that you’ll feel comfortable with what is ahead of you on your family law journey. A good sign is if you leave an interview with a prospective lawyer feeling heard, informed, if you have clarity and empowered.

 

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